Claudia M. Gold MD

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Claudia M. Gold MD

Pediatrician • Infant-Parent Mental Health Specialist • Author • Teacher • Speaker

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Webinar | July 23 2024

Listening In: Lessons in Early Relational Health from Infants and Caregivers

Listening in describes the ability to listen with an intentional suspension of expectations and a willingness to be surprised. This presentation wove the perspective of infant, caregiver, relationship, and culture with concepts from developmental science to offer evidence for the power of the not-knowing stance. It reframed a deficit as an asset —showing that the moments we feel awkward and uncertain are the ones that offer the greatest potential for growth and change.

Conference | May 7 2025

The Biology of Belonging 2025

Human beings cannot thrive without a sense of belonging. Why? That is the question this ground-breaking conference will explore. Claudia M. Gold, MD will deliver her talk “The Developmental Roots of Belonging: Lessons in relational health from infants and caregivers.”

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Reviews

"This book provides a practical and engaging translation of complex biopsychosocial theories into clear, accessible language that everyday parents and multidisciplinary early childhood professionals can readily understand. Thoughtful, reflective questions throughout the book help practitioners critically reflect on the role of race, racism, and the legacies of historical trauma in early relational health. This process of centering is one of the few relationship-based techniques that intentionally shifts the frame from the familiar parent-blaming to a stance of ‘not knowing.’ I highly recommend the ‘listening in model’ as a gold standard to create authentic working relationships and understand the multicultural experiences of families and young children."
Marva L. Lewis, PhD,MH-E®
Clinical Faculty, Tulane University School of Medicine.
“In this lively and riveting book, Claudia Gold and Ed Tronick show us how the successful repair of missteps and failures form the foundation of a graceful and coordinated dance between ourselves and those around us. Even if the roots of our troubles are deep in our early relationships, human connections can heal by engaging us in a new set of moment to moment mismatches throughout life and present us with opportunities for connection as long as we, and those around us, are open to repair and re-connect."
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Bessel A. van der Kolk, MD
Author of The Body Keeps the Score
"A highly readable text, wise and empathic, that integrates theory, recent research, and vignettes to guide clinicians in... listening thoughtfully to help parents resolve tensions at a very meaningful point in their child's development."
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Michael S. Jellinek, MD
Professor Emeritus of Psychiatry and of Pediatrics, Harvard Medical School
"Drawing on powerful research, as well as the timeless and insightful wisdom of Winnicott, Bowlby, and many more, Gold makes an undeniable case for the simple act of listening, an act that in many cases can be the most potent treatment available."
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Claire Nana
review at Psych Central
“A very useful, thoughtful book. It lays out the best thinking of our time to help parents make decisions about nurturing their child’s development.”
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T. Berry Brazelton, MD
Professor of Pediatrics, Emeritus Harvard Medical School

Listening to parent and baby together using the Newborn Behavioral Observations (NBO) system

from the Hello It's Me Project

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Quotes from My Books

From "Getting to Know You"

In this book, drawing on more than 3 decades of experience practicing pediatrics while studying, teaching, and writing about contemporary developmental science, I propose a model of what I call “listening in.” It calls for listening with an intentional suspension of expectations and a willingness to be surprised. Getting to Know You presents not a “how-to” guide but rather a way of being that calls for purposeful shifting out of the expert stance to instead sit in the discomfort of not knowing where we’re headed.   Our very stance of not-knowing opens the door into a child’s experience, creating space for all members of the family to feel truly seen and heard.

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From "The Silenced Child"

When we don’t listen, whether as a parent, friend, or professional, most often it is because we are overwhelmed... We want to help, but we feel helpless. We want to “do something.” But without listening, these jumps to action may inadvertently close off, or silence, a child’s communication. When we pause for a moment of human connection and communication, we discover a path to healing.

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From "The Power of Discord"

As I shifted from asking questions and giving advice and instead simply listened, I saw families move from anger and disconnection, sometimes through deep sadness, and then to moments of reconnection. A young child would spontaneously run into her mother’s arms to receive a hug. Often I felt a tingling in my arms, and my eyes filled with tears in the presence of rediscovered joy and love.

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From "The Developmental Science of Early Childhood "

When a clinician makes time to listen to the story from an infant mental health frame, clinician and client have an opportunity to understand the behavior in its relational and developmental context. Behavior is a form of communication. When we understand that communication, we discover the meaning of the behavior. The path to healing becomes clear.

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From "Keeping Your Child in Mind"

If we as a culture hold parents in mind, that is, instead of telling them “what to do,” listen to them and support their efforts to “be” with their child and understand her experience, we not only will help with “behavior problems,” but we may actually help to promote healthy brain development.

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Child in Mind

Harnessing the Healing Power of Relationship

October 27, 2024

Many of my colleagues in a variety of disciplines, pediatrics included, feel enormous pressure to be the “expert” and to know “what to do” in a wide range of challenging circumstances. This story reveals how connection lies not in knowing but rather in “not-knowing.” We can offer a relationship: our full presence along with respectful, nonjudgmental observation of parent and infant together. The relationship itself serves to contain the anxiety that accompanies uncertainty.

US Parental Stress as Public Health Crisis

September 16, 2024

If we take time to land for a moment on the unique human newborn, both the urgency to support parents, as well as the travesty of neglecting to do so, becomes crystal clear.

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May 7, 2025

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The Biology of Belonging 2025

Human beings cannot thrive without a sense of belonging. Why? That is the question this ground-breaking conference will explore. Claudia M. Gold, MD will deliver her talk “The Developmental Roots of Belonging: Lessons in relational health from infants and caregivers.”
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